3 Behaviors That Could Wreak Havoc On Your Life

Bad habits get in the way of our goals and the ability to achieve them. They have the capability to dominate your life, forming a shackle around you, and making a slave out of you.

 

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So, stop doing that!

Let me ask you a question: Are youtrying to wreck your own life? I’m asking because it seems like the only possible explanation for some of the batshit crazy stuff we choose to do.

I’m not pointing fingers. Think of me as the little Monopoly guy in a striped jail bird suit — Guilty as charged! But, I’m going to be blunt here, we all seem to love wreaking havoc on our own lives by clinging to dumb ideas and behaviors that are getting use nowhere.

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In fact, I was people watching today, just got off the phone with my best friend, and then had a quick little “chat” with my hubby — and everyone is totes cray. It might be part of why I love them so much.

And you, too.

But it makes me wonder if we actually love feeling like shit because that’s what we keep reading, posting, tweeting, and connecting on: I’m so stressed. I’m so overwhelmed. You won’t believe what went wrong now!

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Personally, I think it’s time to put the smack down on this pattern before we really do ruin our lives.

Here are the three deadly habits that are ruining your life (by making sure you have zero energy to enjoy any fun or happiness):

1. Creating a Routine and Rigidly Sticking to It

Routines are supposed to make things better and easier, right? The self-help section of any bookstore assures that this is a way to improve your life.

But, routines can actually make sure you stay small. You know how everyone says to “think outside the box”? That sounds like an amazing way to live — beyond boundaries where everything is possible. Well, perish the thought. It’s not what you really want anyway.

Nothing makes you feel more like you’re in a box than adhering to a rigid routine. You know who you are, what you’re doing, what is expected of you, and all the characters in your life. You gain identity and certainty. Hooray!

But, it doesn’t stop there. Any stringently held routine offers the potential for an incredible amount of self-judgment when you don’t successfully stick to it. (I don’t know about you, but whenever I have to do something, that is when I am the least compliant and cooperative.)

That judgment takes energy — your energy. It takes effort and energy to disdain, criticize, and discipline yourself for your in/ability to follow your invented protocol.

But wait…there’s more! When you have a routine that you need in order to know who you are, what is expected of you, etc., then you need other people to adhere to this routine, too — because if they mess up, it messes you up. So, your identity and sanity is in their hands. What could be more relaxing than that?

I don’t know about you, but have you seen how f**ed up people are?! So yes, place my sanity in their hands, dependent, at least in part, on their ability to know how much this means to me and to perform well, and consistently. That way I can spend a considerable amount of energy making sure they stay in line so that my life will stay on schedule. (Ugh!)

 

 

Read more: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/09/07/3-behaviors-that-could-wreak-havoc-on-your-life/

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