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Should You Spank Your Child?

“Each and every parent have different methods or disciplining their child. While some would opt to have a private and gentle way reprimanding their kids, some uses a little force to make an impression. Though we cannot understand each one’s approach but one thing is for sure, we all just want our kids to grow as a good child. We just need to remember to know our limits and never abuse our powers.”

 

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Were you spanked as a child? Then you may think it’s a good way to guide a child. Or maybe you don’t want to spank, but you find yourself doing it because you don’t know how else to get through to your child. Interestingly, adults who were not spanked as children don’t spank their kids. It just feels wrong to them. And you know what? They find other ways to get through to their kids. And their children turn out fine. In fact, it’s the kids who are spanked who have a harder time regulating their emotions, and who get into more trouble.

The last thirty years of research give us very clear results. (The citations are at the end of this post.) Kids who are spanked are less emotionally healthy than kids who aren’t. What’s more, kids who are spanked behave worse over time.

So if you were spanked and think you came out alright, it wasn’t because of the spanking. And while you fine, hopefully, you would probably be a bit healthier emotionally if you hadn’t been spanked.

A 2013 study by Elizabeth Gershoff and her team (cited below) reviewed the previous two decades of research and confirmed that children who are spanked are more likely to exhibit depression, anxiety, drug use, and aggression as they get older. Children who have suffered more severe corporal punishment have been shown to have less gray matter in their frontal cortex, and to have amygdalas that are more hyper-vigilant. The only positive outcome that’s ever been shown from spanking is immediate compliance; however, corporal punishment is associated with less long-term compliance. Corporal punishment has repeatedly been linked with nine other negative outcomes, including increased rates of aggression, delinquency, mental health problems, and problems in relationships with their parents.

Large, peer-reviewed studies repeatedly show that the more children are hit, the more likely they are to hit others, including peers and siblings. As adults, they are more likely to hit their spouses. The more parents spank children for antisocial behavior, the more the antisocial behavior increases. All of the peer reviewed studies being published continue to confirm these findings.

A major study at Tulane University, published in Pediatrics controlled for other factors that have been found to contribute to aggressiveness in children, including the mother’s depression, alcohol and drug use, spousal abuse and even whether the mother considered abortion while …

 

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